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Timing Really Is Everything

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Even when you have found the perfect person, the right timing is crucial. (photostock/freedigitalphotos.net)

Even when you have found the perfect person, the right timing is crucial. (photostock/freedigitalphotos.net)

The heart wants what it wants. This is usually how people justify their affairs, and it always falls flat. What about when the heart wants something, but there are too many obstacles? I’ve had a couple situations where I was in love with someone and we were right for each other, but the timing was just off and we knew it wouldn’t work. That didn’t make it any less painful. It’s rare to meet someone you connect with so deeply.

I once had a boyfriend I was completely in love with. We always had a great time together. We were supportive of each other’s careers. We kept a healthy balance of being individuals in a romantic relationship. We would stay up all night talking and never ran out of things to say. We could even sit in complete silence and be content. But I knew that, at that point in my life, I wasn’t ready to commit to someone like him. I had to grow, and I needed to be single to do that.

Walking away from that relationship was painful and left me second guessing myself for months. I broke up with a good man I had no problems with because I could foresee things going badly. I knew that, ultimately, I wouldn’t be happy with him, and I wanted to leave on a high note.

When I look back at that relationship I’m grateful for having been with him. I learned how to be in a healthy relationship and what falling in love feels like. I could say that I wish I had met him later in life, but I don’t know if the person I am today would be as enamored with who he is now. This is mostly because I haven’t talked to him in years and I have no idea what he’s like these days.

There’s no feeling as exciting as new love. But love is not always enough.

Ariel Kashanchi is a Contributing Writer for Living Out Loud - LA, covering lifestyle and entertainment. Follow her on Twitter: @IranianMermaid
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