Part of the fun of dating is meeting new people and learning how you get along with different personalities. It gives you some insight into who you are and what you want out of your romantic life. It also broadens your perspective. It’s like traveling to different countries without having to renew your passport or suffer through jet lag.
But many of us create a roadblock to this wonderful new world, a roadblock called, having a type. Most people tend to date a variation of the same person over and over again and wonder why they run into the same problems. Much like the definition of insanity, repeatedly dating the same person will not get you different results. This is why I urge all single people to date the rainbow.
Dating the rainbow means going outside of your comfort zone and getting to know someone you would normally dismiss. This could mean dating a different nationality than you normally do. It could even be as simple as dating someone with red curly hair when you normally date blondes with stick straight hair and abundant extensions. If you’re a guy who’s into women with well-endowed posteriors, perhaps you could try being a boob man. The possibilities are endless.
I used to always date the same guy. He was 8 to 10 years older than me (daddy issues), arrogant but intelligent and faux spiritual. The conversations were interesting, and I always knew how the courtship would go so I felt a sense of safety and control. Eventually, I got to a point where I knew what their next move would be or what words were about to come out of their mouth, and I got bored with dating and men. So I decided to try a new approach and date someone closer to my age who was humble and didn’t talk constantly talk about how great his yoga practice was. It was refreshing, and because I didn’t know what to expect, I was able to be in the moment and fun. Through dating new types of people I learned more about myself, and I started attracting a better caliber of men.
Next time you’re sitting across the dinner table from someone you just met and you know what they’re going to order before they tell you, think about how exciting it would be to get to know someone who you haven’t already met 1000 times over.